"My stbxah had his girlfriend go through the house and she found my 12 step book from a group we went to together after ah's second dui. They are now using it against me in court as leverage to gain custody of my baby."
Wait, HIS dui's?
Can I ask how long you've been sober? If it's been a while and your active in recovery with a sponsor and support group, this isn't much leverage at all. If you're not working on recovery that's a whole other ball game.