Hi WilsonSmith,
As others have said, it takes time and you really need to be patient with your wife. I went through the same thing with family, and as I said, it takes time and it takes you showing your wife that you are changing.
As for going out to a bar for any reason, I wouldn't do it. I couldn't be around alcohol in early recovery, and I mean for several months. It was just way too stressful for me.