Great support coming your way here in the above.
I got a similar response. In fact, my XABF was all over the place when I began to detach. He was angry, sad, sweet, overly nice, and even determined to ignore that anything was different between us.
I was finding peace, but his life was crashing down.
All that time we try everything we can think of to get them sober so our lives can better. Finally we learn that we are going about it backwards and we should be coming at that sentence from the other end. We should be making our lives better and leaving it up to them to get sober or not.
Your doing very well, he is having to adjust. Hang in there.
Alice