I dunno i see it a little different i guess, i remember when i was drinking...everyone used to have to have a drink, even if a person didn't want one i would insist to the extend that they would take the drink and put it down on the side just to get rid of me...i would have just said i don't drink (anymore) and left it at that...if she knows that you don't drink and is still trying to get you to drink then she is pushy if she doesn't know that she isn't being pushy to try and get you to have a drink at a dinner party where all are drinking IMO...