Eric - I know it hurts. As you know, alcohol wouldn't make it any better; and in fact, would just end up hurting you.
When I feel this way, I try to go find a new hobby. Can you start training for a half-marathon or take up guitar or something to give you a new goal to achieve?
I think that when we have this new time (because we aren't drinking), we can either stay in self pity, or get up and do something new.
And, as they say in AA, This Too Shall Pass.
It does get better. I am on almost 15 months, and I am much more balanced now. I can deal with the pain in a much healthier way - and can enjoy the joy too.
I feel for you, but know that it doesn't last forever.