in 2006 my RAH went to prison for his second round of fraud and identity theft. I began divorce procedings but couldn't even finish the paperwork. His children asked me to give him another chance. I didn't talk to him for a year, but then I went with his daughter and grandaughter to visit him. I saw a change. He wasn't cocky, he wasn't trying to manipulate me. We spent a full year talking, and Iwatched him. I agreed that if he was granted work release he could come home....because if he didn't get a job in 6 weeks he'd have to go back. So he came home 11/08. Got a job. Stayed away from his people, including his family. Fixed up the house. Put me first. Got promoted.
We're still together, I trust him a little more than I did when he first came home, but I don't think I will ever trust him 100%. When he comes home late from work...I wonder. It's impossible to be with a man who is using, and it's hard being with them when they are in recovery.....