I wonder why people keep thinking that once they marry someone somehow the person they marry will change into a different person. I'm sorry this is what you're dealing with. There's no such thing as a traditional alcoholic.. in fact that definition has kept a lot of alcoholics who didn't fit it, drunk, and dying for many many years.
My husband made a few comments about "missing" me as a drinker, because yah, we'd party and have a blast... other than the fact that continuing drinking would KILL me. He got over missing the drunk me in his own time.. Non-alcoholics do not and will not understand alcoholism.
He will quit drinking when and if he wants. How you accept or not accept that in your life is what is totally within your control. Please ask the folks in the Friends and Family section for some support, and take care of YOU and any children involved.