I read your post about the "traditional alcoholic"...and wanted to reiterate the alcoholics come in all different forms...I NEVER hid the booze, I drank right in my kitchen and living room, in front of everyone...(although I never left the house and got into my car to drive in the middle of it).
it sounds like your husband is straining to get out and away from his family to indulge his passion of partying...protect yourself and your child, he's causing you unneeded stress and strain....how would he feel if YOU left him to do all the parenting and running the household and family by himself? you might ask him that when he is sober.