it's really early in your sobriety....are you strong enough to be in a setting where Alcohol is a prominent fixture? I don't think i could do that yet (i'm on day #38)...your husband's remarks may make it all the harder to stick to your resolve....perhaps he is not used to the newness of you not drinking...maybe in a few weeks he'll view it differently.
if it were me, i would be "cowardly" and invent an illness to protect myself....because I would be so nervous about caving in and blowing my sobriety....(but i've been obsessing about easter dinner with my family where wine is served with dinner for the last 2 weeks)....best of luck with your decision.