Hey Charlotte
I've always had a tendency to overreaction and OCD too - I used that rationalisation to drink maybe 10 years
after I realised I didn't drink like 'normal' people, and that I had a problem.
Normal people don't always get drunk, they don't drink alone habitually, and they don't prefer drinking alone. They don't need a drink to wake up in the morning or go to bed at night. They don't blow off or fudge their responsibilities to make more opportunities for drinking or post drinking recovery. Normal people don't make themselves drink until they're sick...and then drink more.
They don't take 3 days to recover from a drinking binge and then think - 'hey it only took 3 days...I must not have that big a problem'...and go and start drinking all over.
I could go on, but if any of that rings any bells, Charlotte, you're not overreacting - but you already know that
I hope your husband comes around, but regardless of that, you have us
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