(((Trish)))
In my recoveries, it was my daughter, who was also struggling, who had to come second in my life...and that choice eventually, broke the unhealthy tie between us and turned out to be a gift that freed both of us....
Part of my recovery was freeing myself from our codependent relationship. I could not heal while engaged in the unhealthy relationship between us, and that was very difficult to face, understand, and then to choose to change my ownership in it.
It was a challenge, as I struggled to set boundaries and she tried to maintain the status quo, but I came to see that choosing to take care of me, did not translate into loving or caring about her any less, quite the opposite.
I knew if I was ever going to become whole again, I had to make me a priority first....nobody else was going to....
Trish
I don't know if my little share helps any but I really understand how difficult this is for you, and I am behind you, whatever you decide.
You and grams are in my prayers