Originally Posted by
humblestudent 
Thanks all...Intention, I think my part in this started with me even being there in the first place. But you hit the nail on the head, I think in terms of my contribution to this. I said the shot thing really in order to fit in. To show that I was not so "high and mighty" about drinking that I was looking down my nose at everyone, if that makes sense.
But - after I read your comment, I thought about this more, and realized that my intentions went deeper. I think my anger toward this person and her husband had been growing over the past two months about them giving me crap about me not drinking, and about this woman in particular for, as Fandy put it, making me feel "less" by her rude, invasive and agressive interrogation about not drinking.
I thought as much. I am not surprised as your thinking and actions acting upon your thinking a very alcoholic. We alcoholics can be very predictable at times
Bottom line is, I need to get away from these people for sure.
I think that is a wise move.
It'll be tough, because we all have boats, and their slip is two away from ours. And I'm not selling the boat. I may move slips, but I am not selling the boat. It's an activity my husband and I love, and have worked very hard to be able to do. If everyone else gets falling down drunk, that's their business. But I'm done with that.
If you are passionate about this lifestyle, then that is good for you. I would say the more sober time you have the easier it will be to avoid these people.
When you have the desire to fit in, it can be very difficult to break away. You don't have to feel bad about not socialising with them. A way to deal with them is to explain what you are
for rather than
against - in other words "I need to find new activities which help me to stay sober" (which is about you/your problems) rather than "I cannot spend time with you because you drink" (about her and her problems). You can still be kind and walk away without explaining any more.......which could very well likely lead to another confrontation and most likely another resentment.
Enjoy the boat
