Spawn wrote:
If a character defect is bothering some-one-else?
I would ask myself,....who is this person to me?
,......do I value their opinion?
do you see where I'm going with this?
Spawn, perhaps you are viewing character defects as latent, inactive things that don't affect other people. (??) Something we can hide.
Quite the contrary, our character defects can't be hidden, and they affect other people very directly. They are anything but latent and inactive. We can't conceal them because they affect our motives and actions and our motives and actions affect our relationships.