dimishing/minimizing behaviors
I find that as I look back at previous posts that I have made here on SR I remember how terrible some of the things my AH has done. It drives me crazy that I have this ability to in my head make everything be, "not that bad", knowing that if anyone told me that they were being treated the way I was that I would tell them to leave. I was sitting talking to my mom today about some of these things, and she kept saying, "Why are you still there?" - exactly what I think, but then when I talk to him, he is so crafty and making it all about what I have done to him and how I have wronged him, and even though I KNOW this is not true it gets to me. I have got to get better aboutt his - I now this relationship is SO unhealthy and I am SO tired or hurting, why is it that he either shifts all the blame to me or I diminish his behavior to be not as bad as it really is???????????????