Mike,
I agree with everything Ann said (she's a very smart woman! :smile: )
It sounds to me like you're getting a little worried about what will happen to your lives when she gets out. All you can do is take it one day at a time and see what happens. Whatever happens, remember, it's God's plan. Keep working on you and you'll just have to wait and see what happens with her when she's home.
I'm glad you were honest with her. I was in a similar situation, and putting off just telling him how I felt, it only postponed the inevitable (sorry for my spelling!) I was afraid of him relapsing, not taking it well, etc. And yes, that happened, but it was beyond my control.
Mike, you're doing great in your recovery, keep it your number 1 priority.
Take Care,
Red