I'm so sorry you are going through this again.
I'm afraid I have no words of wisdom for you. You are very brave.
As you know I have a daughter with Aspergers and she has been very difficult to live with.
Someone once said to me that 'we are never given more than we can handle'.
My sister also used to say....'if she was with me I'd have murdered her by now' and that she was supposed to be with me because I was patient and did my best and that she had a better life with me because of that.
When things got bad, I contacted social services, and we were left for another year....I finally broke down on the telephone, incoherent, threatening, crying.......result...an emergency meeting and a respite bed..the next day. She is still in respite, 2 months later, but has been offered a flat with support.
I know your son is much younger and our circumstances are different, but I am sending healing vibes to you. I will pray for you and your son and other children. xxxxx