Well it looks as though the ladies here have already plotted to kick your mans butt!!!
Well if they would like some male assistance in doing so I volunteer!!! LOL
Look I have a strong feeling that you may be like I used to be when I was drinking & in early sobriety, I hated the person I was, I had no love at all for myself because I did not like me!
If the above is true of you then I pray you learn to love yourself, because once you learn to love yourself, you will probably find this man repulsive and not even worthy of you wiping your feet upon! You may not know it yet, but you are not a floor mat, let no one treat you as one with your permission.
It took time & work, but I learned to love myself using the program & fellowship of AA, think about using AA or another program of recovery to learn how to love yourself again.