Thread: Struggling Mom
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Old 03-04-2010, 11:22 AM
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sojourner
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Enodm: Welcome to SR. Another mother here with an adult son struggling with addiction. I too have allowed my son to struggle with this totally apart from me. So I commend you for the courage to do the right thing by your son.

May I suggest that you not "awfulize" the outcome for your son. According the "Addict in the Family" by Beverly Conyers, the most basic fear we have is the death of our loved one, and that fear is what drives us to do the nutty things we do. But, as you continue to read from those who were addicted but now are not, there are many success stories. And, whatever awful thing you are envisioning could happen right under your very roof while you are cooking dinner in the kitchen, so keeping the insanity in our homes does not lessen the danger that our sons have put themselves in.

Hope that helps. Sounds kind of dreary, but really it's not.
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