Hound, I notice you have felt a range of things about this incident. I griped about one of my own here. Not identical at all, but still part of the overall topic of "now that I am not drinking and others still are and the baggage amongst all of us"...that conflict I can't name right this moment. It's good that you have switched perceptions of it, and you probably have gone around a few times with it. I did when dealing with mine. I think it took 5 days before I could feel the dust settle on that one, ha ha.
Umpteen times there are non-alcoholic drinks in the picture for a toast occasion, many times without glass.
It's a hassle to contend with stuff like this, this feeling like we are from outer space and not in the club. Well, remember you belong to a club of your own and you made a good choice! That's what I tell myself so far.