Houndheart you might plan a warm weather trip with some of your friends you find are more supportive of your new lifestyle?...this winter has been harsh (I'm in jersey about 30 miles outside the city).
Unfortunately (or fortunately) we outgrow certain rituals that were so much *fun* when we were less mature..and you may be outgrowing your friend you mention at the top of this thread....You are maturing, taking your physical and mental health seriously...she is not there on that same page....or maybe she would like to be but can't admit it.
As for me, I am SURE I will get there in my own time and my own way....I am still dealing with a lot of issues that make me ask a lot of questions about myself without obsessing. Some days my thoughts and opinions about why i do things change every HOUR. But at the same time, I am happy with my decision not to drink...I keep taking a quick peek at a sober future. THAT is awesome to me!