I'd say to keep it monitored and just be honest when she bothers you and tell her to quit. My friends have been great about accepting the fact that I've gone sober, but since I'm the only one who has they still let things slip sometimes. In example, I got invited to a poker game last weekend and my friend said with enthusiasm "we're all going to start drinking at 2pm, you have to come!". I realized though that there was nothing malicious about his statement, he is just caught up with his own partying life and momentarily forgot that I no longer am. We all get so caught up in our skin that we forget things that may be important to others sometimes...