Hey!
If quitting smoking isn't causing you anymore anxiety than just getting sober. More power to you! I couldn't do it at the time because it would have been too much of a change.
One thing, and it may be nothing, is that the post seemingly is based on your drinking buddy? Hmmm...
"but i dont want him to see me as boring and not as fun with out a drink "
Would you feel the same way if this friend was a woman? I'm not saying much of anything there other than wanted you to look at it from another prespective. He's a man, you're a married woman. We need to keep those kinds of friendships in check now and again. They need a review.
Okay, so a true friend doesn't have those kinds of issues. A true friend enjoys you for who you are. Regardless if you are the life of the party or not. They just simply enjoy your company.