As someone earlier mentioned, your wife has to want to get sober. As for dragging herself to an AA meeting, for some that may be good others not always. If you have a family Physician, that might be a good place to start. Since you alluded to the fact that your wife may have a phobia, a counselor might be another resource. It might be that her anxiety is part of what is driving this behavior and a doctor might recommend medication that would be helpful on both her anxiety/phobia and the drinking. While AA is by far the largest group that supports recovery, evidence shows that it is no more or less effective than other methods. Find a time when she is receptive and not so defensive and just have a calm candid conversation with her and see where she is at the moment. Mention your fears and concerns to her and see what she truly wants to do.