Hi Humminbird
I guess you already know that we can only really do something about our own drinking - and Newbies is a great place for that - you'll find a lot of support for your own problem here
You'll also find support for the other side of it too.
It's hard when a partner is a drinker, and especially hard when they show no signs of not wanting to give it up, or of wanting to support you - but others here have managed to get and stay sober, despite the obstacles.
Do check out our Family and Friends forum for people who are, or have been, in similar situations for their partners drinking
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
I think you'll find a lot of help and encouragement here no matter which forum you're in at the time
Welcome to SR!
D