Welcome Bettie!
I have made the observation that AA meeting dynamics vary region to region. I have been to meetings in several parts of the US, and they seem to all have a local flavor.
When I lived in Virginia, the meetings were wonderful and welcoming. However, here in rural Ohio, they are decidedly not so.
Seattle is a bit of a cliqueish town anyway... perhaps there are meetings a little outside of town you could try?
If not, stick around here... this place is definitely warm and welcoming!
-Goat