Did your boyfriend try and get clean prior to treatment?
If so, you realize that it didn't work. These people are professionals, and there is a lot of evidence supporting what they do. You feel like they are "doing this to" you, but it's not about you right now. Your BF, and these counselors and techs, are trying to save his life. It must be very lonely, and of course you just want to touch him, talk to him. But you simply cannot right now. So try and accept it, see the good in it, and I think that will help. Just think, wouldn't it wonderful if you lived your independent life for a year, and he got clean and sober, and then you two could have a new lease on life? Now visualize what a strong, smart and independent young woman does to have fun, to grow, and live life fully. Then go start doing it.