...he grabs his computer and walks out the door saying nothing. this made me upset - and though i shouldn't have i texted him and said basically if i left without a word, or didn't come homee one night he would be ticked off. he showed back up and told me to quit playing games. then i was playing wiith my daughter - still not engaging in his horrible mood
sorry to be a killjoy here, but i would agree with his statement that you were "playing games".
you said that you were not engaging in his mood, but i think otherwise.
mentally, i will be your cheerleader and support you in getting REAL distance between you and this man, but i think that means "hands off".
sincerely wishing you well,