Originally Posted by
mentallyexh 
do you think that i am wrong to say no drinking....even if it does not happen near me or the kids?
P.S. I think you have every right to say no drinking, BUT what are you going to do about it if he just disregards it and goes out and drinks? What's your plan? If there are no consequences then why should he do what you say? Look at it this way: He knows you don't want him to drink, but he really really wants to drink, and past behavior might have shown him that he can get away with drinking and lying about it - so why should he stick to the boundary, why not just keep doing what he's been doing?