Everyone has a different bottom. I've sat in rehabs listening to people say, they don't know if, they'd hit a bottom yet or not.
I can't recall reading if, your b/f has a job or not?? If, he isn't working, I'd tell his grand mother to leave him in jail. I won't bail out my kids from jail. That sounds harsh but, I want them to sit and think about what they're doing to themselves. The last drunk I got thrown into a drunk tank in jail. No one would come bail me out but my lawyer. That helped me hit my bottom