With time, as others have mentioned, you will realize that some friends are no more than drinking buddies.
But, there is another issue here that we all face on a broader scale and that is that most people don't understand alcoholism. People will say things that make no sense at all, and it won't always be an attempt at sabotage, but it's because they don't understand the disease.
How to tell true friends from drinking buddies? True friends will welcome your decision to be sober and give you encouragement and support. They won't mind if you want to meet up at a coffee bar instead of a bar.