first of all, barbdwyer - i cracked up laughing at your post, but I KNOW that had to bewilder you and downright hurt. Sure it's funny and deranged pathetic now, but backing up to the time is really insulting. Anyway, metall - my thought is it's his personality and probably is accentuated when he drinks. Use this as a learning curve and all the more reason why you are evaluating his true colors. I hope you are feeling well and wish you abundant joy at such a thrilling time.