I am with you. The selfishness and narcissism is off the charts.
I am not sure how much of mine is about his disease or how much is about his personality.
Mine has a family of self centered people. It runs in his family, as does the alcoholism, so it is a slippery slope.
You are not alone in this. Every time but once that we have had to go to the hospital and deal with my sons tumor, my A has been so incredibly selfish. So put out, so "suffering from anxiety". Its as if no one else is there, having to deal with anything. It is futile to point it out, as they seem to think the tiniest effort on their part is Gods gift to the world. HE was like this during my pregnancy, during our osns birth...He is like this everyday. Oh, the poor thing has to work...No one is as put out and tired as he is. No one cares how he feels. It is so childish.
I am going to post a thread today about another aspect of this. I have had some insights, but do not want to hi jack your thread.
I hope everything works out for you and your beautiful baby.