Thanks you both for the warm welcome
One small correction, my Sister is the Daughter and i am the Son......lol
I appreciate your help and will look in those other forums, i do feel fine in myself, not guilty bout her drinking, although there probably are feelings i have hidden from myself.
My mother says she does want to stop, but refuses to really do anything usefull to help herself, apart from as i say she will stop for a while now and then, but it never lasts.
When she is stopped, my sister and i find it really hard to talk about, because we feel that she might be ok this time, we dont want to trigger her by talking about it, but i feel it's the only time it might sink in.... what to do there?
Anyway, i really appreciate your guys support