I had some suspicion...
I let it slide...
I get some truth...
I texted a friend...
I text his boss...
I am really good friends with his sponsor...
"I cannot check them as you changed you password"... (his phone records)
Sounds like you are running yourself ragged trying to keep up with his addiction issues.
Try to turn the focus back on you and your own recovery. I think his deployment is the absolute best thing for you....you seem very enmeshed and could use the space. I'm sure your sponsor would want you to have some space from an active addict as well.