Thanks everyone. I have only been on this board today and have found a great support within this. Looking back I see how I have made small baby steps to change...and now I can finally say okay yeah I am done. I have already started to look for fun things for my boyfriend and I to do instead of drinking. He loves to cook and has mentioned cooking classes, so I think that could be a fun activity to do together. The funny thing is a month ago we went on a mini vacation together and barely drank at all. It seems we let drinking be influenced by others...instead of our own choice.