I have similar feelings,my couple is remebering me all the day
what i did wrong and i don't know how much i'll tolerate this situation
i have a high level of stress beacuse this,i told her that remebering
how many things i did wrong is not the best way for recovery
but everyday she does the same and later she apologyce,
telling me that was my fault and she can't change now her angry to me
five minutes later she usually says "i love you"
at least i see that i'm improving my patience 100% or 200%