Hi everyone, this is my first post, this seems like a really great forum, i look forward to many more posts and new friends
The reason i write is that i am at a loss.
My mother is an alchoholic, my sister and i do our best, she is 29 and i am 24 we both live away from the family home and she is on her own, we visit every to every other day,
....but i feel there must be more that we can do.
My mum, she is not abusive when she drinks..... a bit rude sometimes, but really she just turns into nothing, if that makes sense, its pretty bad, at least a litre of vodka a day at its peak, hidden around the house.
She claims to do it to dull the past memories, especially when my dad died of cancer three years ago, she relied on him for everything, she suffers from depression, but both that and the alchohol have been going on for many years before that, a long time before i really knew.
It was only after my dad died that we stopped pretending it was not there and started activley trying to do something about it.
She was drunk at my dads funeral ;(
Since we started talking to her about it, she has tried a few times an manage for a month or so without drink, 6 months was the best. Just when we are starting to think "maybe its going to be okay this time" she let us, more specifically herself, down.
At the moment she is trying to sell her house, we have to do everything for her regarding that, which is fine, but not if she is drunk when people come to view....etc
We asked her to goto councelling, which she did once, about the depression i think, and she said it was good, but she point blank refuses to go again, says she can do this on her own, which i do not believe she can.
She says she will be fine once she moves to a new house, out with the old and all that, but im sure you have all heard that a thousand times, it makes me feel pretty bad doubting and disbelieving her like this.
Untill recently i tried softly softly approach, and recently i was a bit more harsh like my sister, which we think is the wrong way to go about it and so have stopped.
.... thats all i can think of for now.... so if any of you have any feelings on my situation..... whatever they are, dive in and post back, it would be really appreciated
Thanks for listening.
On a lighter note..... My dog just walked into the door hehe.... wish i had a picture
- Shorty