Ananda, I still have trouble comparing a real physical dependence to say meth or heroin... to being "in love" or being a codie. When you're mean because a chemical has hijacked your brain its more understandable than being mean because you "love someone". When people leave their loved ones they'll be deeply sad of course but they'll suffer no physical withdrawals, unless its an extreme scenario like the loss of a child. I personally believe there is no such thing as addictions to people, sex, food, or gambling-at least not in the same boat as drug dependence. (Maybe soon they'll have recovery groups for rapists and murderers too.) But, hey, I'm not making millions of dollars off of self-help literature so what do I know?