i'm a recovering addict coming up on 8yrs, but staying sober is hard work, quitting was the easy part. on the other hand, i waited for 21yrs for my husband to want to change and as far as i know, he may go right back to using when he gets out of prison, thats where his addiction has lead him. 2yrs ago, i finally had to leave anyway, trying to cope with his addiction was literally driving me insane.
yes there are a lot of success stories here, imo, its not that we're trying to be negative, its just that most of us wish so badly that we could somehow spare the next person of all the pain and worry that we've experienced. not only that, being a recovering addict with yrs clean, i know exactly what it took for me to get sober and desperate to stay that way. i know my family loved me but it was not love that got me sober, it was them moving out of the way and letting me hit my bottom. i had to see for myself how out of control my life had become.