Hey Banchy,
I'm sorry to hear about your friend, and sorry that her recent relapse is causing you so much pain.
Hard as it is to hear, there isn't anything you to help your mother or your friend. They have to seek help themselves. If your friend put two sober years together, she knows the ropes and knows what she needs to do.
You can seek help for you and how alcoholism is affecting your life.
Coming here was a good start.
Have you thought about going to Alanon meetings?
Stick around, there are a lot of people here who understand what you're going through.
Gabe
P.S. When I saw your title "Alcoholic Magnet", I thought this post was about me. I attracts 'em like flies I tells ya. :veryhappy