This maybe OT to what you were asking Saphie but I'm a bit like Anna - I found I was actually doing a lot of things for other people they could do themselves - kind of a control freak codependency thing.
I've learned, and am still learning, to not sweat the small stuff - I'm learning to prioritise and focus on the things I really need to do...and let the rest go.
The things all get still get done - but maybe not by me, and maybe not today.
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