One friend of mine is 9 years sober and he cooks with wine at home, it is a standing joke that we have seen J walking down the street with a bottle of wine...
Another friend, at xmas dinner, is 23 years sober she eat 2 and a half xmas puddings as they come with the brandy butter and with the brandy that they normally put in xmas puds...
Other friends with years of sobriety would not touch either food with wine or puddings with alcohol with a ten foot bargepole...
Those are their choices, two things they all have in common is that they are recovered alcoholics and would all say that a person in early sobriety (first couple of years) would have to be out of their mind to have anything to do with alcohol whatsoever, cooked out or in a pudding...hope that helps:-)