Welcome to you!
By 31 days i was working on my step 8! Do you have a sponsor and are you working the steps, if so what step are you on:-)
Just in case i miss your reply, the freedom and the ability to cope will come as you work through the steps...particlarly on step 9 and by the time you start working step 10...it's all in the Big Book, the sponsor is so you can understand what it all means and how to work them...