I just think it is very rude and disrespectful of the husband. When I was married my husband and I both smoked, I stopped smoking and although he tried to stop he couldn't BUT out of respect for me he never smoked in our home again. If he can't not drink for at least a month or 2 then ah... he has a problem. I can be around alcohol now but during the first year if I even smelled it (even unopened bottles at the grocery store) it made me sick.