Hi There!
I always try to start by reminding people that I'm only on my 7th day of sobriety, so please remember that when reading my posts. Those that are much further along in their recovery I'm sure will have some great words of wisdom.
That said, when I decided to stop drinking I had a big heart-to-heart with my wife. I know that she can never understand my disease (who really can outside of an alcoholic?), but she has come to accept my disease.
Anyways, I told her that my alcoholism was just that - mine, and that she was not responsible for my actions. I also told her that the only thing I was really asking from her was for her to support me - which she has 100%.
I did mention to her that it would really, really help me that if she was going to bring alcohol into the house, that I didn't see it or know about it. I told her that this would help remove a stumbling block during my early recovery.
Has she had any alcohol during my early recovery? No clue, and that's just the way I want it to be.
Good Luck!
RacerX