Originally Posted by
littlefish 
My father is the first person on my step four list. I haven't reached the third column and will go through all of it with my sponsor when I'm done. I am looking forward to finding new ways of seeing him as a person, because my view has always been colored by anger, hatred and resentment. I simply never liked him: I hated him.
It will be darn good to find another way to feel, because those feelings have only hurt me. An AA speaker said: resentment is from latin and means "return to feeling". They hurt you the first time, but when you take that resentment and visit it over and over again, you are hurting yourself.
Hi Littlefish,
......In the meantime I would suggest you follow the
specific instructions on the second half of P552 of the BB. (also read the whole story if you have time, it's a good one)
My experience of this is - at first I have literally choked on the words as I have found them so unbearable to say, then I start laughing at the ridiculousness of them a few days later, then a few days later I feel peace and the resentment has vanished. It has
always worked for me.
Resentment cannot live alongside Prayer.