My father is the first person on my step four list. I haven't reached the third column and will go through all of it with my sponsor when I'm done. I am looking forward to finding new ways of seeing him as a person, because my view has always been colored by anger, hatred and resentment. I simply never liked him: I hated him.
It will be darn good to find another way to feel, because those feelings have only hurt me. An AA speaker said: resentment is from latin and means "return to feeling". They hurt you the first time, but when you take that resentment and visit it over and over again, you are hurting yourself.