I think I know a little of what you mean...my Dad's not an alcoholic but he's not a grower either - we don't get on too well but he's not a bad guy...he's just exactly the same man I knew as a child...same attitudes, same prejudices...same haircut LOL.
I vowed *I* would never stunt my growth...but of course I ended up doing exactly that...for nearly 20 years.
It's nice to have restarted growing these last 3 years...even if I do look more and more like my dad everyday
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