I have gone to about 5 al anon meetings, and have found them helpful and a great place to get support for myself. Some were better than others, and I am actually going to one tonight I went to last week that I really enjoyed. I have also bought a lot of books, almost too many, on codependency and enabling. I almost am afraid I am spending too much time learning and thinking about all of this, hopefully it is healthy.
I know I need to change, and it is just not him (the addict) who needs to. I really do know that, and I want to change. I want to be happy and learn to have a healthy relationships. I appreciate your post, thank you, it really is the truth. I will continue my readings and going to meetings...one day at a time.
On a final note - I often find myself muttering "this too shall pass" throughout the day- funny you mentioned that.
Thanks for your reply, you speak with wisdom