Originally Posted by
Anna 
I really hope you can focus on yourself and getting support for you. I think you need to remember that your wife needs to want to get better and you can't make her do it. I know that firsthand, because my husband tried to make me stop drinking and it didn't work.
The alcohol may or may not be her first issue. Many of us here had undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness which led to self-medication with alcohol. It is certainly possible that the bipolar issue caused the alcoholism.
So you do understand how difficult it can be to let go. When she isn't drinking or we spend the day passing phone calls everything is fine. Once we get home no longer want to be around her. You don't want to change things you are used to. We are in the final stage of home purchase how can I just walk away? I want to be strong. I just continue to fail.